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Post by blu on Jan 12, 2008 18:30:31 GMT -5
Yeah, I'm working on my coming out to my friends, but yeah, I haven't gotten anywhere with that.
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Post by Shooshoo on Jan 14, 2008 8:49:58 GMT -5
Its not an easy thing to do blu, take your time you'll know when the time is right.
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Post by blu on Jan 14, 2008 19:07:42 GMT -5
I thought of the perfect time, but it's not something I can actually do. I would have to tell these three seniors that I roomed with on our trip that I had a crush on this guy (because they asked me if I've ever had a crush on a girl [I'm one of those guys who likes guys that doesn't act all feminine]), then my mom push my head into a window (which I could totally see her doing) for something stupid, tell my choir director in private, him go to the office and call DHR while people try to pump me for the info, the guy I like ask to me to tell and I immediately say "Okay", then one of the seniors I told say something like "Aww...you still have a crush on him...oooops", then people pump and I come out about it.
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Post by Aaron on Jan 14, 2008 19:30:31 GMT -5
I thought of the perfect time, but it's not something I can actually do. I would have to tell these three seniors that I roomed with on our trip that I had a crush on this guy (because they asked me if I've ever had a crush on a girl [I'm one of those guys who likes guys that doesn't act all feminine]), then my mom push my head into a window (which I could totally see her doing) for something stupid, tell my choir director in private, him go to the office and call DHR while people try to pump me for the info, the guy I like ask to me to tell and I immediately say "Okay", then one of the seniors I told say something like "Aww...you still have a crush on him...oooops", then people pump and I come out about it. I wouldn't totally worry about it. I actually just told my mom that I was into what I'm into lol...this past spring actually. I don't think she's totally gotten it around her head...but I don't think she's worried or scared or anything. So that is good. I'm 23 and just now coming out to it in public. I wouldn't tell my other family because...well they are just themselves and nothing can change that. But, you will and when you do come out it'll be okay and yeah maybe nervous but it's cool. You'll know when that time is. And, only you can make that call. No one can make you or anything like that. What saying is don't sweat it. You will when you will. It's not worth getting stressed or scared man. Think also too why I waited till 20's and not when I was in my teens was because people nad there preceptions. Them thinking it's just a fade when I knew for a fact it wasn't and that I was into it. In the community as a whole I actually got jumped and laughed at. I really tried everything I could to learn and grow. Much to the envy of those around me lol. So when it's your time you'll know.
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Post by blu on Jan 14, 2008 22:12:02 GMT -5
Yeah, and I'll probably be accepted even better because I'm bi and still like girls. But yeah, I know I'll know, and I'm not really scared about it except to my mom. She personally said she would kick me out if I were every gay or bisexual. She absolutely can't stand homosexuality for some reason.
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Post by Aaron on Jan 19, 2008 14:55:09 GMT -5
Yeah, and I'll probably be accepted even better because I'm bi and still like girls. But yeah, I know I'll know, and I'm not really scared about it except to my mom. She personally said she would kick me out if I were every gay or bisexual. She absolutely can't stand homosexuality for some reason. Probably because she doesn't understand it. Why lots of those that truelly don't get it...are like that. My Uncle and now his daughter are like that. But, then again he's a sergent in the Army. Where you'r a Man. Some can get it in the service while the other's are all Manly types.
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Post by blu on Jan 19, 2008 15:53:57 GMT -5
Yeah, personally, I like being bi because if I ever get drafted I can come out and be kicked out of the army. That would be the perfect time to come out, well, that would be one perfect time to come out, at least.
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Post by Aaron on Jan 28, 2008 15:14:48 GMT -5
Yeah, personally, I like being bi because if I ever get drafted I can come out and be kicked out of the army. That would be the perfect time to come out, well, that would be one perfect time to come out, at least. -shakes my head and tries not to laugh- yeah..and then this is what you do.....RUN! My Uncle's in the service and yeah. Lets just say that if he was in the same room with a guy/lesbian he'd probably wig out.
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Post by blu on Jan 28, 2008 21:49:25 GMT -5
I was sort of joking, actually. You know, they're not kicking people out for being openly gay, anymore. They have at least 500 openly gay soldiers who haven't been kicked out.
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Post by Aaron on Jan 30, 2008 15:52:17 GMT -5
I was sort of joking, actually. You know, they're not kicking people out for being openly gay, anymore. They have at least 500 openly gay soldiers who haven't been kicked out. didn't know that. Although it's a drop in the bucket compare to the thousand something that they did. That is alot of money wasted really -nods lots-. What is the site? -thinks- Pam coffee house. If you google that she's got a link to something where it's got the number of how many have been kicked out. Haven't been there in a while but it use to be on the sides of her blog.
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Post by blu on Jan 30, 2008 21:42:21 GMT -5
Yeah, it's sort of a new thing that a lot of commanders are doing. They figure they need to the help and gay people are just as helpful as straight people are. They're also realizing that more and more people are faking homosexuality to get out of the army.
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Post by Raven on Apr 5, 2008 21:55:19 GMT -5
There is no draft in the Army in the U.S. anymore. They can't kick you out for being gay. The whole "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" thing. If you want to be in the military, that's your choice. I have a female friend who was in the Army and she came out years later to everyone. We all knew she was gay, or at least bi, even though she never officially "came out." So, chances are, blu, your friends may already know. I hope that doesn't worry you.
As far as being accepted for your sexuality, they'll always find something to disapprove of, something "weird" to scoff at. In the end, it's about what makes you happy. And those that truly care for you will see that. They are the ones that matter.
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Post by blu on Apr 12, 2008 22:07:42 GMT -5
Well, a lot of people don't see it. I've had people tell me they could never see me being gay or bi and plenty of things. Although I have had some people say they thought I was gay at first. But they were usually gay/bi themselves.
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Post by Raven on Apr 13, 2008 21:56:07 GMT -5
Does it bother you? Being "in the closet"? I mean, do you want to tell people?
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Post by Aaron on Apr 14, 2008 19:34:39 GMT -5
Does it bother you? Being "in the closet"? I mean, do you want to tell people? -shrugs- this is just me but wouldn't want to maybe shout it out loud. But, it's nice to have family know. Or, should say those that are truelly important to you know.
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